Not A Pleasant Swimming Lesson with Another Mum in Dubai
When I set out that day, I never thought that the day would turn so weird and I would be so affected by this incident. What I had thought of as a pleasant swimming lesson with my son and his friends turned ugly because of a pushy mum in Dubai.
I had only heard of such mothers who just push their kids, but this was firsthand experience and I have to say I am still unable to understand the need for it.
Helping A Mum in Dubai
So, I had taken my son and three of his friends for their swimming lessons. I had been doing this for a while now as I had the time and liked to spend it watching the kids. I had started only with my son, but soon two other women from our apartment building asked me to take their children too as they could not do so themselves. I agreed as I knew the two women and was friends with them and whated to be a helpful mum in Dubai. Also, I wanted to help out.
As it Happened
We went down to the swimming pool for the lessons as usual. My son and the three other kids were with me. Two of the children were siblings. There were other children and parents around the pool too helping their children master the art of swimming. The two brothers were older than my son and the other kid by a couple of years or so. Since they all played often together I knew them well. But apparently not too well.
The children got into the pool and started their exercises and practicing their strokes. They were all progressing well. My son and the other boy were quick learners and had already started to paddle without the tubes. The two brothers were taking their time and still used the tubes to paddle around.
Pushy Mother Descends
Suddenly the mother of the two brothers descended upon us. No sooner did the kids see their mother, their faces fell. I wondered about it but did not think much until later. She stood watching the four boys and when she realized that her kids were behind the others she got out of control. She started screaming at her boys calling them stupid, incompetent and to try harder. The more she screamed the more the boys cowered. The commotion disturbed the other children in the pool and a parent came up to ask the lady to calm down and give her children time and space. The pushy mother just turned around and screamed at the poor man. She shouted “I don’t want my kids to be second to anyone. They will come first or die trying.” We were all stunned at her outburst. A few others tried to intervene but looking at her vehemence gave up. Most of the parents got their children out of the pool and went away. A good decision as it was not a pleasant thing to watch. Her sons were cowering while she hovered over them forcing them to swim without the tube like my son was doing.
It was heartbreaking to watch her two boys trying their best to please the mother and there was nothing they could do that was right. I too could not watch their little faces all dejected and sad anymore. I got my son and his friend out of the pool and went away.
I heard later, that she stood there a long time forcing the kids to try harder till the security came and asked her to leave with her sons. I heard the children were exhausted and crying by the time they came out of the pool. I had never experienced anything like this before. The woman had been pleasant and friendly but I had no idea she could be such a pushy Mum in Dubai.
Why Do it?
The incident left a deep mark on my psyche as well as my son’s. He asked me if I would do the same to him if he failed at something. I hugged him tight and told him that I would love him despite everything. Anyway, there are no failures in life, there are only learning opportunities.