I don’t think there is any mum in Dubai or anywhere else who hasn’t dealt with temper tantrums. One thing that parenting teaches you is patience and this comes in very handy when dealing with tantrums. A child can throw a tantrum anywhere anytime, even at places where you think they might have fun. Some parents find it very hard to deal with the tantrums. If you are one of those parents, this post is for you.
Understanding Why Kids Have Tantrums
Kids have just as much personality and individuality as an adult. They long for the same things, love, security, comfort, independence, etc. as adults. But they are dependent upon their elders or parents to fulfil most of their needs. When the adults fail to understand their needs or provide for them, a tantrum can happen. Being tired, sleepy, hungry, thirsty or simply bored are the most common causes of tantrums. They can also happen when children want something and cannot get it, or want their parents to do something which they refuse to do. All of us remember whining, crying, screaming, kicking, hitting, etc. from our children for a toy or a candy that was refused or not provided. Tantrums can be annoying at the least. No parent wants to be spotted with a child that is screaming and crying in public. It is embarrassing.
Tips for Mum in Dubai to Control Tantrums
Though sometimes, it may seem impossible to pacify a child in the middle of a tantrum, it can be done. The best way to control tantrums is to try and prevent it. Make sure your child is not hungry or thirsty. Try not to go out when the child is hungry, tired or sleepy. Keep the child occupied so he or she is not bored. Always keep some snacks and a drink to give to your child. Make sure there are snacks and toys within reach of your child so he/she doesn’t have to rely upon you all the time. If despite this, the child still throws a tantrum, you need to deal with it as soon as possible.
Pay attention to the child: If the child begins to show signs of going into a tantrum, pay attention to his/her needs. This almost always helps to diffuse the situation.
Distract the Child: When a child is whiny or crying try to distract them by giving them some task to do. If you are out shopping, ask them to look for things you want in the store. This will keep the child occupied and kill the tantrum in the bud.
Reward the Child: If a child wants something and you do not mind buying it, tell the child that you will get it for them provided they behave while you finish your work. Always provide incentives for good behaviour.
Give them some control: It is good to let the child have some control over little things. Give them choices such as – Do you want to wear the pink pyjamas or the yellow one? Do you want cocoa milk or vanilla milk?
Do not make it into a battle of wills: Don’t be overbearing. Listen to your child and try to reason. If it works, well and good, if it doesn’t then sometimes it is best to give in and walk away. Never respond to a tantrum with anger or frustration. Patience and self-control is the key here.
Ignore them: Sometimes ignoring is the best policy. Warn your child to behave and if they do not listen, then ignore them. Walk off if you are in a public place leaving the child behind. At home, go to another room leaving the child alone. When ignored, the tantrums disappear pretty quickly.
It is best to take your child to a quiet place to calm down. This is especially true for tantrums in public places. Being away from the public eye helps get the anger and frustration out.